Saturday, March 28, 2009


NR has a terribly inconvenient schedule.

I dare not complain TOO loudly, since he sleeps through the night, but the child is turning us into heathens!

Let me explain.

We go (or, more accurately, went) to the 9:30 a.m. service at church.

I'm am horrified to admit that we haven't been in over a month.

Some of our absenteeism is legit: MotH's grandmother passed and we had to help move her stuff out, sick kids, etc...

However, NR's schedule plays a big part in our missing church.

I seriously don't know how other people do it.

The problem is that NR gets up between 7-7:15'ish each morning. He eats. The longest he'll go between bottles is 2 1/2 hours, which means he's hungry about 15 minutes after service starts. I end up in the nursing mothers room feeding him until the sermon is over.

Staying in the sanctuary and feeding him is NOT an option. He is an incredibly LOUD baby when he's hungry (or when I pause to burp him).

Yes, there is a tv in there. No, you can't hear it and I'm quite awful at reading lips. Plus, I'm rather preoccupied with feeding a baby.

We could go to the 11:00 a.m. service, but he'd be hungry half-way through and we'd go through the same routine.

The church has a nursery, of course, but I'm not quite ready to put him in there yet. Have you seen some of the stuff that comes out of the babies in the church nursery?

The fact that they are there with their rainbow assortment of various bodily fluids is a topic for another day, but they are there.

So, I feel sort of stuck. I find myself thinking "what's the point?". I basically go so I can feed my kid in a small room upstairs. Heck, I can stay home and feed him. I'm not getting anything out of the message, because I'm not THERE for the message.

I haven't even seen our new sanctuary!

Oh, and one more minor issue. I really dislike going to the nursing mothers room. I've ended up in there three times and each time I'm the only bottle-feeding mother in there. I feel like a leper. I'm sure I'm imagining it, but it seems like they look down on me (I'm still rather sensitive about the whole breastfeeding issue).

I feel like an intruder. Maybe I should just stick him under my shirt and sneak him a bottle so I fit in better.

We are going to try and go to the 11am service tomorrow. Wish us luck.

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Honey, I Think We're Breaking the Kid

Forgive how scatterbrained this post is. My brain is a direct reflection of how my weekend has gone. I'm sure there are those among you that can sympathize.

Here goes...........

When we bought out house 11 years ago, we intended to live here about five years.

I'm guessing you already see a problem.

There are two problems with where we live:

1 - the street in front of our house is quite busy (it wasn't when we moved in). So busy that it simply isn't safe for us to use the front yard.

2 - this is probably the biggest problem. There are NO kids living near us. At least none near AM's age.

When I was growing up, my parents used to shoo us outside as soon as it was warm enough for our eyelashes not to freeze. We rode bikes, roller skated, played in the sandbox, played kickball/baseball/whateverball, until the "streetlights came on".

I'm guessing I'm not alone in these childhood experiences.

Looking back, I know that this meant my mother could make dinner in peace. My father could relax after work. Both of them had hobbies and interests that didn't begin and end with their kids.

It meant I learned how to throw a ball, build a bike ramp, ride a skateboard and play a mean Princess Leia/Daisy Duke depending on our mood that day.

There were scads of kids and we played until we were as worn out as the knees on our jeans.

Unfortunately, AM is not having any of these experiences. If we want him to ride a bike, we have to pack he and the bike up, drive them to a park, and let him ride. If we want him to go outside and burn energy, we have to provide the entertainment. If he wants to play with a friend, we have to go get one and take him back home (or arrange for a "play date" at the park).

While I don't mind meeting at the park, or picking up a buddy for the day, I do mind that these are his ONLY opportunities to play with a friend.

Summer is quickly approaching and with it "I'm bored"-season. Sure, I can take him to the pool, but unless I intend to do something to entertain him every day I'm home, he'll end up inside watching tv. Or playing a video game.

I do NOT want another summer like this.

While I'm sure it's not PC for me to wish I could shove my kid outside, the truth is that he NEEDS to have many of the same experiences I had as a child. He needs to get dirty, learn how to do the monkey bars and skin his knees.

He needs buddies. Other boys he can rough around with. I NEED a way for him to burn energy. He needs to play.

The lack of kids in our neighborhood is effecting his development. For heaven's sake, the kid can't ride a bike without training wheels and it's completely due to the fact that there is NO place for him to ride and nobody for him to ride with.

So now our desire to move has gone from "eh, we'll do it someday" to "this needs to happen NOW".

We have friends that live in subdivisions FULL of kids and those kids have the childhood I had (or something similar). When their kids get home from school, they are outside playing with neighborhood pals.

When AM gets home from school, he sits. Yes, I go outside with him, but the reality is that I can't be outside shooting baskets, inside making dinner and inside with the baby all at the same time.

Plus, I'm mom. I'm not a guy buddy he can go get dirty with.

Is any of this making sense?

Moth wants to move someplace with land, but at this stage it's more important (he agrees) to get AM into a neighborhood where he can have a more active childhood. Eventually, NR will need a "boy" outlet too.

We need to make this happen. Fast.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Straight talk for evangelicals

I think this article is, for the most part, spot-on. Particularly this paragraph:

The evangelical investment in moral, social, and political issues has depleted our resources and exposed our weaknesses. Being against gay marriage and being rhetorically pro-life will not make up for the fact that massive majorities of Evangelicals can't articulate the Gospel with any coherence. We fell for the trap of believing in a cause more than a faith.

In short, I too think that in many cases, American "evangelicals" have allowed themselves to be so distracted by social issues that they fail to approach doctrine and the Gospel with equal zeal. Without that foundation........of knowing what we know and why we know it.......we are just a group of people with a lot of opinions.

I would say "enjoy reading this", but I don't think there is much to enjoy about it.

***I'm adding a disclaimer: I may not agree with nor regularly read the Christian Science Monitor, but I firmly agree with many of the points made in this article.